Thomas Dumm

 

On his book Loneliness as a Way of Life

Cover Interview of December 16, 2008

In a nutshell

The title is an almost absurdly clear description of the book, but the truth is, until my editor suggested that title to me, I wasn’t quite sure that what I was trying to grasp was, in fact, a way of life.  Loneliness as a Way of Life looks at three elements of the path of loneliness in modern life – how we buy and sell ourselves, which is to say, how we are possessed by our possessions, how we love, and how we grieve.  I interweave philosophy, literature, and recollections of my own past experiences to try to understand more fully what it means to be lonely, what the history of modern loneliness is about.  I begin to set the scene for the book by writing about the tragedy of King Lear, how Cordelia and her dad, through some terrible misrecognitions of each other, each end up in a lonely place that we might recognize as being akin to our own modern place.  I argue that a lot of loneliness has to do with the problem of the “missing mother.”  And that thread, the problem of how we are unable to come to terms with that metaphorical (and sometimes literal) loss of mother, has, I argue, set the terms of our modern condition.

In successive chapters, I use new readings of some canonical works, primarily from American literature, to connect loneliness to a better understanding of the politics of experience.  I am very interested in the politics of everyday life, and from a variety of angles I try to illuminate these different aspects of lonely existence.  It adds up to an argument that loneliness is an element of the human condition that decidedly shapes the horizon of our possibilities, politically, socially, and existentially.

Because so much of this book is personal, I ask my readers to try to bring more of themselves to the reading of this book than they might otherwise do.  I ask this in part as a plea, but also as a warning.  This is not a happy book.  In fact, at a roundtable concerning it recently in Boston, several of the commentators noted that they would be sitting and taking notes on the book in coffee bars, and suddenly find that they were crying.  I took that as a compliment.  I tried to make this book have emotional, as well as intellectual, impact.  Indeed, part of the point is to say that those two elements of how we comprehend the world are closer to each other than we usually appreciate.